By Sebastian Charm

Ouch! We’ve all been there, on the receiving end of someone’s meanness. It can hurt, it confuse, and it can leave you wondering, “what did I do?” Here’s the thing: most of the time, it’s not about you.

Let’s explore why people might be mean and how you can navigate these situations:

Why the Meanness?

• It’s Not You, It’s Them: Often, mean behaviour stems from the person’s own issues. They might be struggling with insecurity, stress, or frustration, and lashing out is their way of coping.
• Power: Some people use meanness to feel powerful or superior. They put others down to inflate their own ego.
• Miscommunication: Sometimes, what’s meant as a joke falls flat. Cultural differences or unclear communication can also lead to misunderstandings.

Protecting Your Peace:

• Don’t Take It Personally: This is easier said than done, but remember, their behaviour is a reflection of them, not you.
• Set Boundaries: If someone is consistently rude, limit your interactions with them. You don’t have to tolerate negativity.
• Respond, Don’t React: Taking a deep breath and responding calmly can disarm the situation. Avoid lowering yourself to their level.
• Be Kind: While this is not always appropriate, sometimes kindness can disarm a mean person.
• Seek Support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about what happened.

Remember, You Are Worthy:

• Focus on the Good: Don’t let one interaction define you. Surround yourself with positive people who appreciate you.
• Practice Self-Care: Prioritise your mental and emotional well-being. Do things that make you feel good about yourself.
• Build Your Confidence: Focus on your strengths and accomplishments. The more you believe in yourself, the less the opinions of others will matter.

Meanness can be hurtful, but you don’t have to be a victim. By understanding its source and focusing on your own worth, you can overcome these situations with strength and resilience.